Dad’s Have The Power in a Hospital Birth
Okay hear me out. Of course the mom has the power to birth her baby the way she wants to birth, but is it truly the moms job to have to advocate for the birth she is designed to have? Absolutely not! And don’t get me started on why we even HAVE to advocate for our birthright in the first place, because that’s for another day.
The point is, when a mother is in labor, her designed purpose is to be intune. Connected to her baby, her body and her spirit. In a state of mind so deep that her body is completely relaxed, her mind is free of noise, her spirit is guided to a whole other realm searching for her spirit baby and bringing them back to unite with her earthside.
That place is where she is SUPPOSED to be and this is what happens in an undisturbed physiological birth.
When we tell a mother that she needs to advocate for herself in the hospital, we are telling her that her job is NOT to birth her baby physiologically.
How can this be? Well mother’s brain waves need to slow, which is very similar to the path of sleep. Her body knows that, but when she is forced to stay more alert by advocating she is doing the opposite of what her body is telling her to do. Finding herself giving in and accepting unnecessary interventions because she does not have the mental clarity needed to make these decisions AND she is interrupted so often that she can’t make her way into a deeper brain wave state to do what her body is telling her, so she becomes stuck somewhere in the middle and may just want out or relief.
So where do dads come into play?
Good question, from the very beginning!
Dads should know what the mother wants in her birth during pregnancy. He needs to be the one to stand strong for the mother, and be the advocate. He needs to know that the mother should not come out of her realm to appease anyone. When a dad can confidently say “I heard her say no” or “We are not going to do that right now” or “Please give us space, that is not what we discussed” to the caregiver, I can almost guarantee that the caregiver will move right along.
The MEN especially have societal dominance, and when he can strongly stand up for the birthright of his partner, he can and will change the paradigm of how birth is “performed” today. We NEED men to stand up for the wrongdoing of birth professionals. With you, the paradigm will shift faster. So believe me when I say, MEN HAVE THE POWER IN BIRTH.
